Being, as I am, a simple American, I have grown up with certain ideas. Hard work pays off. If I pay for a service, I have a right to receive it. 'Networking' is part of my vocabulary in the sense of making connections with people who will be able to help me achieve my goals. The ultimate dream is to retire early, with a respectable (read: large) sum of money and bum around, allowing myself all the experiences that work (read: responsibility) has kept me from having all these years.
What's that, ringing phones? I can't hear you from out here on my freaking windsurfing board. Perhaps you could leave me a message? I'm sure I'll get back to you as soon as fun stops being fun. |
This is a fine model when applied to business (the basis of it, in fact), but when applied to relationships, it's not so helpful. In fact, it's probably the easiest and fastest way to frustration and despair.
I LOVE YOU MONEY DOG WHY WON'T YOU PLAY WITH ME??? |
What it comes down to in the end is control. If we believe that we deserve the love we are given, it must be a result of something we have done, that is, it again points back to us. If we can do something in order to receive love, then we are ultimately in control and love is not a matter of gift, but of receipt.
"I said long ago, you get you a signature and sign everything you do and keep a copy of it. Then you'll know what you done and you can hold up the crime to the punishment and see do they match and in the end you'll have something to prove you ain't been treated right. I call myself The Misfit," he said, "because I can't make what all I done wrong fit what all I gone through in punishment."
On the other hand, we can be filled with despair because we can see that nothing we do is enough to earn God's love. But this is as it should be. Nothing we can do is enough to earn God's love because God's love cannot be earned. It is gift. Realizing that it is not dependent on our actions means that all control is taken away from us; it is ultimately an act of humility to accept God's love because it is given to us in abundance, completely without our ability to control. Love is the antithesis of control. Love bursts the thought that we are self-sufficient and capable of ordering our world according to our own desires and powers. Love confronts us with what-is-not-ourselves, or it is not love.
Now, I do not mean to argue that our actions are meaningless - of course our actions have great meaning, especially when they are genuine expressions of our personhood. But it is not that we act in a good way in order to be loved by God. Rather we act good (we are good) in response to the fact that we are already loved. John O'Donnell, SJ, wrote a book on Hans Urs von Balthasar's theology, and in one chapter he wrote,
"Those who begin to love perforce cease to worry about their own happiness, are no longer concerned with merit, and even forget about heaven for themselves. Their whole being is caught up in the fact that everything is gift."
This may sound silly, but when we love, even salvation no longer matters. If salvation is the primary goal of our actions, this will devolve into that arithmetic that kills love. This is the point of saying that the goal of faith is not an event or a destination, but a person, Jesus Christ. It is not that we are striving simply to enter the heavenly realm
Rather, we are striving to encounter and be caught up in the love of Jesus, in the Holy Spirit, through the power of God the Father. This was the insight of St. Therese, who promised to "spend her Heaven doing good on earth." Why? Because she longed to be with Christ, who is present with us here and now. I think when we fall into a "Heaven's my destination" type of mindset, we think that we get to check out and leave this world behind. But it's not about escape, it's not about rejecting this world, it's not even about reward - it's about submission, about allowing ourselves to be loved, which means giving up control, being humble before the blast of God's love, and loving in response. But do not despair. The math went out the door with the Cross.
"I said long ago, you get you a signature and sign everything you do and keep a copy of it. Then you'll know what you done and you can hold up the crime to the punishment and see do they match and in the end you'll have something to prove you ain't been treated right. I call myself The Misfit," he said, "because I can't make what all I done wrong fit what all I gone through in punishment."
On the other hand, we can be filled with despair because we can see that nothing we do is enough to earn God's love. But this is as it should be. Nothing we can do is enough to earn God's love because God's love cannot be earned. It is gift. Realizing that it is not dependent on our actions means that all control is taken away from us; it is ultimately an act of humility to accept God's love because it is given to us in abundance, completely without our ability to control. Love is the antithesis of control. Love bursts the thought that we are self-sufficient and capable of ordering our world according to our own desires and powers. Love confronts us with what-is-not-ourselves, or it is not love.
Now, I do not mean to argue that our actions are meaningless - of course our actions have great meaning, especially when they are genuine expressions of our personhood. But it is not that we act in a good way in order to be loved by God. Rather we act good (we are good) in response to the fact that we are already loved. John O'Donnell, SJ, wrote a book on Hans Urs von Balthasar's theology, and in one chapter he wrote,
"Those who begin to love perforce cease to worry about their own happiness, are no longer concerned with merit, and even forget about heaven for themselves. Their whole being is caught up in the fact that everything is gift."
This may sound silly, but when we love, even salvation no longer matters. If salvation is the primary goal of our actions, this will devolve into that arithmetic that kills love. This is the point of saying that the goal of faith is not an event or a destination, but a person, Jesus Christ. It is not that we are striving simply to enter the heavenly realm
ROAD TRIP!!!! |
"Our sins are as a drop of water, flung into the furnace of God's love." |
glorious. Love.
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading, Jestie! Hope to see y'all again super soon! Love, love, love! That's one for each of you out at the monastery. Until next!
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